Wednesday, January 09, 2013

Parenthood is kind of all-consuming

The title sums it up. On the one hand, every second of my day feels full. Luke's back at work full time  so it's a lot of Kelly-baby time. Bucket is growing in leaps and bounds - he's over 10 lbs, he's focusing on things,  I even got some really look-at-mom-and-smile moments.

seriously, check out my neck folds

He's also started what I think people refer to as "cooing" but in his case sounds much more like a hooting owl. It's also nice that at 7.5 weeks his digestive system seems to have matured nicely and the digestion-related fussing has calmed down. We're now working on naps and sleeping. (Baby sleep is so weird by the way - he's a really good sleeper at night (generally sleeps 11-8 waking once at 4 or 8-7:30/8 waking twice at 11 and 4), but the naps and waking/grunting/is he just in and out of a sleep cycle or is he awake... is really confusing. and every now and then he completely freaks - like when he lost it in the car seat and fussed so hard he gave himself a bloody nose... but on the whole he's happy and bright eyed and I love him to pieces.

On the other hand, I feel like I have nothing "going on". I can read a few pages in a novel at a time. I'm slowly working on a cardigan and a larger sized wool diaper cover for Bucket (for CDing-interested folks: prefolds and wool pants/covers are AWESOME). But his nap cycles are still too irregular for me to get any real work done. If I'm lucky, I can straighten up the kitchen, do a load of laundry or two, and get a little bit of knitting in when L comes home and takes over for a while. We do get a 3.5-3.75 mile walk in most days. I need to start getting better about handing Bucket to L and going out for a run or to the gym, but we do get moving.

I miss work. I miss writing (did I just say that?). I feel guilty that I'm not doing something "productive" (damn you capitalist society!) even though I'm basically engaging in reproductive labor nearly 24 hours a day.

But I'm trying to let go of some of that and just focus on Bucket for a while - because already he's less interested in cuddling, we're heading towards a time where him falling asleep on me won't be good for his own sleep habits, and he's really, really adorable.


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  1. He's so adorable!
    I totally understand your feelings about work etc. I'm having a hard time with that as well.
    I have discovered, however, that every once in a while, if I can get 2-3 hours to myself, I can actually do my own work for a bit, and it feels really nice.

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    1. yeah, I've heard of these things called 2-3 hour breaks... we have yet to really get there. Luke helps i the evenings, but then i generally cook, do some housework and run or knit. I'm really looking forward to this things older parents tell me about: "naps".

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    2. Famous last words... he slept 6.5 hrs straight last night and took a 2.25 hour long nap today! Though I must admit I used the time for knitting and house cleaning.

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  2. I wish that I was there to give you a break! However, this sick season is the most awful one that I have seen in years. I just got back from an appointment with my nurse-practitioner and I am now on zithromax for a cough that has gone on too long. So, even if I were in Tucson, I couldn't be near the baby or you! Take extra precautions. Emerson Cahall, born 11/28/12 in Maricopa AZ, is in ICU with a respiratory illness - she has 2 big brothers who probably brought the germs home from school! RSV and influenza are here unfortunately! I am so glad that Kai is well! Such a cutie!

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    1. I'm friends with an ER ped here and she said that RSV has really started picking up so we are being careful. We are very glad neither one of us has much exposure to the general public, and Bucket gets his 1st round of jabs next Thursday.

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